Perhaps it's that something buried very deep starts to surface for her and this is her response? The not wanting to be touched - perhaps there's some sort of abuse history going on. Of course, this is _complete_ conjecture as I don't know her.

I have seen people in seriously committed relationships who become extremely focussed on each other, and who are a bit hostile to people they see as 'intrusive', but that's about the only thing I've ever seen.

this is interesting. i just got back from playing some shows in Amsterdam. and there were about 13 of us at the hotel rollin pretty hard.

a couple of them never did it before. I did my best beforehand to make it groovy, stocked up on bottled water, groovy music etc. it was interesting to see though a couple peoples reactions. I mean...one of them was really cold hearted....you could see it on their face plainly.
she was having like a mini crisis...having all these feelings.....and also another person she was really having a hard time, but thankfully a couple close really warm hearted friends kinda stuck by her and watched over her.

the coolest thing was how....big a transformation it was from the day before. when they looked at you they looked at you human to human. some of their arrogance was gone. they were quite abit more open. one of them really was shocked to reflect on forgiving her parents for treating her so badly when she was younger.

but yes, i've seen some people really react to the things that get stirred up. but so far, at least everyone in the band or the people our manager brings around...everyone ends up having a good time...even if it's just frickin dancing in the hotel lobby.....or having an interesting realization about your life and a reconciliation with things and events that might have been painful or traumatic.

that's groovy man. totally groovy.